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Facebook ~ Fun and Harmless or A Place For Drama and Chaos?
I am spending more and more time on WordPress these days. I am seeing a much more professional atmosphere here. I get very frustrated with the drama and “texting wars” that occur on Facebook. I used to be guilty of it. As a recovering addict when we cannot find drama and chaos, we create it.
I have been “cleaning house” on my Facebook page, eliminating those who post on their baby mama drama and “yo this ho” stuff continues to find its way into my newsfeed and notifications. No thank you, I do not need daily updates on the current gossip of so and so. Some I do not block or unfriend, I merely go to their page and place my mouse over the “Friends” button. A menu pops up and you can uncheck notifications and newsfeed updates from that person without offending them or hurting their feelings.
I understand that Facebook is a social media site that is for use on updating people on the goings on in your life, uploading pictures and videos, it’s fun and amazing! I love Facebook and if it were not for Facebook I would not have been able to get in contact with so many people that I have not seen in years.
I think for the recovering addict, Facebook can be a dangerous place of chaos and drama if they allow it to be. As I said I am 100% guilty of getting involved in such battles myself in the past. I also do not want to spend my time scrolling through countless notifications that I have absolutely no interest in, it’s a waste of time. What I mean is game and app requests along with notifications about he said she said stuff. There is a way to eliminate this unwanted clutter as well.
Go to your app center and delete your requests for games and apps. As you do so, click on the block button as well. In the future you will no longer receive requests for these games and apps. I find them to be a waste of time and annoying because every other notification I receive is some sort of request.
The most important point of this point I want to get across is that it is the same in cyberspace as it is in the real world. People, places and things. Be careful who you associate with online and who you allow access to you page. Itis especially difficult when your name comes up in a post and you so badly want to respond. I still get that flushed face of anger and want to jump right into the chaos to defend myself, walk away and block them, pull them out of your newfeed and notifications. Your anger will pass and you will feel much better then if you had wasted your time getting involved in that online drama.
Avoiding drama online is something I have not really heard about in the rooms. It does seem to be a growing problem though. Maybe we should start talking about it and we should all be setting an example of what social media should really be used for which is letting people know what’s going on with you, sharing family photos and videos, reconnecting with old friends and even using it to connect to other social media sites or like here at wordpress, sharing links to your wordpress blog to reach more people and spread your message.
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